I just spent over 20 hours putting together a 14 minute video. I am beyond tired, but very relieved. The video is called How Can I Learn to Love Myself This is a video I put together because I felt videos might be more engaging and might be able to reach a broader audience than podcasts. It took a lot of time, but I feel…

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Note: This is a question from a Social Anxiety online community. The Question Is avoidance part of social anxiety?  — CC (this question was heavily summarized — please see section “The Full Question” below “The Answer” to read the asker’s full question) The Answer The answer to this question is definitely “yes.” Anxiety is uncomfortable, so when we experience it, we visibly show the discomfort…

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Happy New Year 2019 everyone! (Belated, I know). I am doing my best to add more content to this blog, as I have many ideas, experiences, and stories that I want to share with everyone. Today’s Q&A comes from a user on a forum I visit about “social dynamics”. The Question The question is from Lupe, who seems to have “friends”, but did not feel…

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In this podcast, I introduce the “Model and Refine” method of learning social skills. I compare learning social skills to cooking I discuss the 4 parts: expand, calibrate, contract, repeat I discuss some of the people I modeled in order to be funnier and a good social facilitator The difference between modeling behavior and “being fake” Other Resources: Official definition of “calibrate” Wikipedia: Modeling definition…

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My longtime friend Pat joins me for this episode! He had social anxiety in high school when I knew him, which I did not know at all because of how vibrant his social life seemed, and has come a long way. Today, he is gainfully employed, married, and has kids. The questions I will ask him today include: When did you feel you had SA? Did…

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“I want to be more social, but I often feel like I have nothing to talk about. I only play video games and watch TV, and nobody cares. How do I find hobbies so I can actually relate to people?” – C Kush The Importance of Hobbies Hobbies and interests are an important part of leading a fulfilling life. Not only do they help define…

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I remember being 18. I was out into the world, with barely any belongings, no friends, and very socially underdeveloped. Even though I had no friends, I was desperate to make friends, so I encouraged myself to be outgoing when I was in social situations. In a way, I was very brave. From there, I was thrown into many new social situations, which overwhelmed my…

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I was recently at a work function. I happened to be put on a table with other people my age. All of them were couples and I was the only single person. I had nothing in common with them: I was single, while they were engaged/married/married with kids. They were discussing buying homes while I still rent a tiny place that I barely bother to…

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